Tuesday, October 30, 2007


I just came back from buying candy for the trick or treaters... I don't think we have a lot of kids in the area, but oh well- my work mates will eat the rest of the candy.
My niece is sooo funny she kills me! She called to sing a song for me, and there i was thinking it's some Yoruba song that her mother taught her or something, then i found out it was actually that rhianna song 'umbrella'! I had a great laugh! And she calls breasts 'bonita's' after the pasteurized milk boxes sold in Zambia!!! she cracks me up!
So little Martin O'malley- the Governor of Maryland wants to work at increasing taxes in Maryland and "decreasing" property taxes...which is a farce coz it wont come into effect till 2010 or so...and his dumb ass will probably no longer be Governor at the time. I am not happy with all these increases when my pay check stays the same!
Oh well gotta run... haven't had dinner yet:-)

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Random ramblings of a knackered chick

I have had a great weekend!!! and I also had a great work week.... I really have little to complain about and the one thing that I can complain about really isn't worth the mention:-)

I went to the wine market www.the-wine-market.com for dinner and had the most delectable duck! Then we got to buy wine at the end of the night for 15% off! So that was great:-) I wont dare say how many bottles came home with me lest I have a wine guard out there:-)

Hey, how come I don't have a private jet? one of my clients flew in on one last week, and I couldn't help but feel envious!

Today I laughed more than I've laughed all week... I met Tisi at Dulles International Airport and we spent the afternoon laughing our brains out! We had one too many margarita's and when the muchies caught on- we ate huge burgers and fries:-) and as if I didn't have enuff my aunt made me a feast for dinner... so I am well fed and happy and still wondering why I am not THE Mrs Bill Gates!
We spoke nyanja all afternoon and it felt like home... like kaponyas and stuff:)

************************RADOM RAMBLINGS OF A KNACKERED CHICK*********************
Why is it that when you're too nice to people they start to take advantage of you? why can't we just take kindness for what it is and reciprocate in a polite way? I guess that only exists in my utopia...:)

and also ladies.... if your husband out of no where starts working out, loses a few pounds, buys a new wardrobe and shows up with a mercedes that you didn't plan on buying, and "works" late several fridays in a row... you don't gots to be sherlock! get your sh*t together lady! It aint rocket science!

and if you're gonna 'play' 5 guys at once... make sure you have a very high I.Q, chances that they will ever meet are slim to none and that if they do meet you can think very fast on your feet!

and if he's married and giving you money... honey he's a sugar daddy!...hmmmmmm interesting concept! maybe I should find myself one:-) lolololol... I kill me sometimes! :-)

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Happy Independence

To all my Zambian "comrades".... may you all have a swell day:-)

and if i get that 'standa singo zambia' forward again... I'm going to choke someone!

Stay blessed:-)

Saturday, October 20, 2007

Africans are genetically dummies!

I love fridays! So yesterday I was BBC browsing and discovered that a nobel prize winning DNA pioneer James Watson had declared that Africans are less intelligent than Europeans!

That's like totally awesome news for me!!! I mean dude...I have been waiting for a non serious disabillity to claim...and now I have the perfect alibi! Now I can go on disability and not have to go to work coz i'm not INTELLIGENT enough to understand what's going on! I am overwhelmed by excitement!!!

I also now have the perfect reason to be and to act IGNORANT! *happy dance* chikokoshi! They don't even have to do a damned IQ test...just based on my continent of birth...I am a dumb ass!!! woo hooo!!!

All Jokes aside though...I REFUSE to be classified as less Intelligent than the Billy bobs of the world! I don't CARE how many genetic tests are done to prove that I am. Period.

Oh some bastards killed Lucky Dube...what the hell???

There was an African Catholic Association day of prayer in Rockville today... and i was too lazy to go:-)

Oh and I forgot to say MAJOR Kodo's to our very own Caleb Fundanga the governor of Bank of Zambia.

Thursday, October 18, 2007

Woe is me...

Today I was having a not so good day, I got some disheartening news and well I just felt fatigued and let down. Sucks to be me right? I unfortunately can't afford to just lock my doors and stay in forever, though I felt like it, but my duty to myself prevents me from doing that:-) I actually thought that I would have felt so much better had I cried, but my emotional responses are sometimes inept:-) But alas! The show must go on:-)

So there I was wallowing in my misery and my little buddy calls me up at the end of the day...and she was going through something similar. It feels like you're in a room with no doors or windows...okay...I think i just spilt too much for the psychologists out there...but hey, it sure makes me feel better to discuss it!

Any way, I put on my favourite music, then I watched pride and prejudice, then i made myself a really SWEET cup of tea and indulged in some swiss chocolates (my other down fall), I feel much recovered now:-)

You know the great thing about me is that my memory is quite short, so I don't get mad for long which really sucks, coz sometimes I want to be mad for a while because some people need to be frowned at longer than others:-) lol!

Oh I can not wait for friday!

Sunday, October 14, 2007

Breast Cancer march

I arose early at 6am to get ready for the breast cancer march which I was coerced into doing by the gang! I wasn't really decided about going until like this morning and I took a shower cussing under my breath the whole time and was dressed like a professional runner in a few minutes!

At first I was cranky because traffic was bad... (thank God I wasn't driving), there were 30 000 participants, and majority of them had pictures of their dead relatives on their shirt and the reality of cancer had me a little agitated.

Once we got running (haha! fooled you! I walked! everyone knows I DO NOT RUN), I got a little more relaxed... and though I didn't make the 3.5 miles (5 kilometers), I made 2 miles and was diverted into panera:-) I must say though that I haven't walked that far in a while...but i hadn't broken out in a sweat, and my legs didn't feel tired. So I am highly impressed with my level of health. I thought I was worse than that!
I also got face paintings (yeah...how old I'm I again?), and many freebies!
I ran into this one lady miss Sharon Davis who entered my life at the moment that I needed her! She was like a guardian angel to me and I was really happy when i saw her today. She really has not real clue what a God send she was because I haven't told her that much, but i promised to be in touch with her, and i'll spill my guts as usual one of these fine days.

Any way, back to today. I am amazed by how big of a turn out they had for the breast cancer march. To be honest, I was doing it because a friend of a friend had cancer, and it's been in remission for a year (she is an awesome lady!).

I on the other hand have only known one person die of breast cancer...while I know many who have died from HIV/ AIDS which normally doesn't have such a great turn out at marches here in Baltimore. To me i feel AIDS awareness is more important than cancer(although its also important), because HIV can be spread to many in a short period time whereas cancer is more 'each man for his own' unless ofcourse you are genetically predisposed.

Baltimore was ranked 3 in the country per JOhns Hopkins( http://www.jhuccp.org/pressroom/2003/11-13.shtml ) in 2003 and could very well be higherr at the moment yet It's not treated the same way it is in Zambia. Every third billboard is of a sexy lady here as opposed to Zambia where it's all awareness and warnings that we probably never heed. It's amazing how many people think AIDS is just an African problem... Baltimore could probably be on par with Zambia if ARV's weren't readily available.

Any way, that's my opinion. Oh and I had a marvelous time at the walk and was invited to a breast cancer survivors house for lunch. She has such pleasant children and the conversation and food was great!

Friday, October 12, 2007


Today was my last celebration for my birthday...sob...sigh:(
went out for sushi...and had a great time. The wine at sushi hanna kinda sucks, so I had half a glass and felt eeeiiilll! Then we listened to some jazz in the street and now I'm back home...bored. Maybe I'll call my brother:-)
I made sure I have clean sheets and a nice clean night dress, and I am sure I'll have happy dreams tonight:-)

side bar:- I'm having a difficult time figuring out if someone is just that obtuse or deliberately insulting... it's amazing!

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

It's not all black and white!

So today I received this article:- http://www.eviplist.com/beta2/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=966

and all I can say is that I am tired of strained race relations!!! I know that i have written ad nauseum about race and so has the media: Jena-6, black stripper, development burnt down coz blackies were moving in, cars spray painted with the word 'nigger', nooses in trees, black chick kidnapped and assaulted by white boyfriend and his hill billy family, vick and his dogs... I am exhausted!!!

Now with that article from D.C saying black leaders have lost influence...well duh??? If black leaders keep standing up for every little story involving black people before the investigation of the alleged crime is even complete... then ofcourse that will help dwindle their image! Especially if later the findings indicate that the black person was in fact guilty... or lying!
It doesn't matter what country you're from or what colour you are. You always loose credibility when you keep taking on crappy fights!

The United States of America. Why can't the people unite? why isn't there just plain outrage that something bad has happened to someone? why must we always 'colour
co-ordinate' things?

Not everything is black and white, but i'm sure there are instances where because of ignorance on both sides of the fence, race determines the outcome of something.

I do not agree that many black people don't get hired because of their skin colour. I personally haven't had that happen (I'm one of the lucky few who have never been turned down for a job), and I do not know anyone that has. (Now granted all my black friends are African or caribean so that could be a reason.) But if I were the hiring manager at a fascility and you showed up looking for a job with sagging pants, a mini skirt, unkempt hair, funny looking dread locks, not articulate, dirty background check, visible tattoos, haven't kept a job more than a few months...I don't care what colour you are, I'm not hiring you unless i'm desparate.

In response to Mwabi's post http://www.africangirlinanamericanworld.com/?p=111 ,I too do not agree with black history month or that it's okay to have BET or Latino television because I wouldn't be tolerant of 'white entertainment television' (although it probably exists with annother name like CBS, or NBC..lol) or groups for the advancement of white people. American history should just be that. American history. Labelling things black or white to me just increases the chasm that exists between the two groups.

Lets also not forget that black Americans and Africans also have strained relations at times.

I hate that Ben Carson is celebrated because he's a black man, or that Condee Rice is a black woman with clout. To me that implies that you thought black people were too stupid to achieve all that.

I think that if the NAACP, black panther...etcetera are short on things to do, they can concentrate on encouraging young black people on achieving more than just in sports and music and help fight ignorance.

Recognize ignorance for what it is. lets not give it a skin color. I too have beena victim of ignorance many times: I have had a patient refuse to get treatment from me because I am a "nigger", or monsignor Tinder calling africans dumb, or someone being disowned by his grand mother because he's white and he dated me, or the countless number of black Americans using degrading tones to my African buddies and I in class just coz we didnt understand or speak ebonics!

Sunday, October 07, 2007

Balantangilila ba yaweh!

I am here but for the grace of God and I mean that literally and figuratively:-) Jesus certainly has the wheel in this joint coz eeeiiish man!!! My life is a saga and then some! So friday, we ended up not doing sushi due to some scheduling conflicts, but half the gang and I went out for dinner, and partly through someone else called to say we needed to go out for a drink...so needless to say we whined a little about it at first, then we got used to the idea and finally after ice-cream we went out to a bar in the area.... i know where it is, but i have no clue what it's called... but I have certainly found the spot where people my age go in the area! Oh and talking of ages... I feel great being older...I just feel so mature, it's awesome! FYI- I am still 21 and will be that age till my first child turns 21...:-) But I digress... too many lights in the room and I can't concentrate:-) So any way, we had a fun night, I danced till my muscles hurt and for the first time in my life... i think i got into bed and was knocked out! Okay i remember getting into my home ALONE and checking my email at 3am (who the hell does that?) then something pissed me off online, then I went to pee... then i have no idea what happened. All I know is that the alarm woke me up at 5 am, coz i forgot to turn it off, and i was under the covers in my birthday suit with the lap top open on the bed...and i'm thinking dear God I hope I didn't respond to any emails...and dear God I thank you for putting me to bed....and dear God I thank you that I am alone!!! Needless to say I was feeling quite "ill" all day saturday, and I didn't leave the house at all. Not even when I had a craving for eggs. I simply settled and ate half a pack of bacon! hey... I'm older now, so i CAN do what I want! Oh and i have some new strange mens numbers in my phone which i need to erase. I rarely call people I meet in bars, but I take their numbers any way especially if they're buying us drinks! lol- sounds skanky, but it's the way of life:-) I do NOT want to be Sixty thinking "WHAT IF?", I am doing my best to make sure that before I meet my maker I can say "I had fun and atleast I tried my best." Today I spent all day in George Town... it was quite enjoyable actually. The weather was awesome-- tell you what, if winter never comes, it really wont bother me one bit! I hate winter!!! Which is a wonder why I didn't move south to say... texas or Florida...ummm. Any way we had lunch at a place I can't pronounce at the water front and dinner at papa razzi...and I had the most glorious mangoe margarita:-) Then we got home and my aunt had 2 cakes from whole foods and some protocolo wine. So my birthday celebs officially end next friday not by my choice ofcourse;) I thank you all my wonderful friends and family for the BEST birthday ever...I think. Though I'm not sure because 1995 might have been better...but who asked me right? lol!

Thursday, October 04, 2007

Girls wanna have fun!

I am sooo tired of eating!!! I have been to dinners and lunches every day this week and i feel bloated!!! Yesterday I met up with my vixter!!!! we were sooo excited to see each other we were jumping on the pavement and hugging each other and screaming like we hadn't seen each other in a few months!

We spent time eating and catching up on life issues like and stuff, she was the highlight of my birthday and i am sooo happy she's moved back

Do you ever get days when you walk out the house and people of the opposite sex are starring at you? I get those days when i get so self conscience because too many men are looking at me and i know i'm conceited, but even I know that kind of attention isn't normal... so then i check myself to make sure i'm dressed coz i feel naked! Today was one of those days and what's funny is that I didn't even heave the twins hanging out today, they were well covered with my fancy work shirt!!

Friday is sushi night for my birthday so it's free for me:-) I have many plans for what i'll eat!

Wednesday, October 03, 2007

Universal Holiday!!!

yes indeedy it's that time of the year that we celebrate the marvelous day I was born!!! bring out the fireworks, the cavier, finest wines and champagne!!! do cartwheels and celebrate that you know me coz that's like special in itself:-)

lol! I absolutely need to get over the fact that I was born, but it's proving difficult! So far my mummy remembered my birthday-- she's such a good girl! My brother also sung me a bday ballad and I have opened the many presents that I received yesterday...(okay so i'm not patient and I opened them yesterday itself)

I feel so special...it's like the one major day of the year that you actually matter to some people! So my actual celebrations started last month:-) but don't worry they will be over by Sunday (that's when they have a "surprise" in D.C for me) So I promise you wont here squat about my birthday after Monday:-)

Any way Sunday was nice and quiet, then monday I was sent home from work and quite bored, then my friends kidnapped me for pizza night since i wasn't working tuesday, then I went out to meet my birthday mate R for the evening, then i came home and now I'm on the computer, then i'll go to sleep again, then I'll meet Vixter for lunch and i'll come back an talk about it, then i'll go to sleep and then, i may go to work later in the day tomorrow. I was asked to come in coz i guess they'll have cake:-) I absolutely REFUSE to work on my birthday... another reason I love my job coz i can do that!

So again thank you various provices of Zambia, south africa, holland, china, Luton (i'm still waiting), Kimmy and Mike- tsk squared!!! Tisi- and C-- I still cried...sorry:) The rest of you are tardy... her royal highness is not amused!